The last couple weeks have been whirlwind of emotions and negativity. Most of it stemming from work, due to people leaving. The turnover is awful but how do you turn a negative moment into positive outcomes?
You can’t change the way people are. I’ve come to that conclusion.
Change can be positive though. It helps grow humans into better people, for the most part. People mold from their habits and surroundings. When their surroundings change, they freak out and are unable to focus on the things that matter. There is one thing about us as humans though that is amazing. We learn to adapt to the changes around us. It takes time but eventually everything evens out.
Change and positive thinking go hand in hand. Change in an outlook can help bring positive thoughts to negative situations.
Some days are easier than others. I have the tendency to absorb negative thoughts and feelings from others. I use different methods to help not let the negative thoughts affect me as much as they do. Leaving work at work and my home life at home, help with this. I do vent every so often about work to my significant other but I do try to drop it after I’ve ranted. Another way, I avoid the people that are toxic in my workplace. This one is harder since I am a manager. My time with them is limited to the amount I allow.
Accepting my new minimalist lifestyle has been a tremendous amount of help. I’ve stopped purchasing things “just because I had a bad day” or “I deserve this because I finished a project”. With the material things out of the way, I have been able to deal with my true feelings and work through them.
This doesn’t mean I don’t have negative thoughts. I do. My last post about Failure is a great showing of that. I do work diligently though to minimize the negative thoughts to leave space for the thoughts I actually want in my life.
Everyone has the same 24 hours, what will you do to stay positive?
Disclaimer: If you are sensitive to NSFW words please do not read on.
So, I fucked up.
No seriously, I really fucked up. Let’s start at the beginning.
I have been seeking this promotion at work for about 8 months now. The time has come where I could have a chance at getting it.Promotion means more money, more responsible, more stress. To prove my worth to the company I work for. What do I do? I remembered the time wrong and missed the meeting I had with my district manager.
I feel awful about it. I made a mistake. A big one, One that could ruin my chances at future promotions with the company. In essence, I tainted my worth at this company.
Now I know that I am being somewhat overemotional about the situation. That it isn’t as bad as I am making it out to be. Does my worth only equate to what I do career wise? Am I so engulfed in my career that this one mistake is the end for my career?
No. Plain and simple, No.
It hasn’t taken a couple days for me to come to this realization. My self worth isn’t what I do at my job. My job is just a place that I make money to support myself. Nothing more. My job is not my passion in life. My life goal. Promotions are nice and come with great benefits but they do not equate to my self worth.
I am still working through the negative thoughts that have come about with this mistake. This event will probably stick with me for the rest of my life. That’s okay though. We are all human. We all make mistakes. Some bigger than others. That’s okay. My goal right now is to take each day at a time and stay positive. If need be, I’ll look for another place that helps me support myself. Always be able to let go and walk away at a moments notice. Nothing is worth your time that doesn’t improve your self worth.
Ive mentioned before that I am trying on the minimalism thing. The last couple days have not been the easiest.
I work in a book store and for a book lover that can bring some complications. How you may ask? I am not a quick reader. So my back log of books is in the hundreds at this point. Plus we sell cute knick knacks and other things that would not add value to my life.
I have been asking myself that lately. Does this item add value to my life? It has helped calm my anxious need to fulfill my consumer habits. I can honestly say that I haven’t purchased any items that would not add value to my life.
If you also didn’t know I was/am an avid Funko Pop figure collector. About a week ago when I was first learning about minimalism, a new set of Harry Potter figures came in. Everyone was thrilled! It was like Christmas in March at work. One of my coworkers knew that I was into them and put a couple on the side for me. A lovely gesture I was apperciative of. I picked up the items, held them for a minute and thought. Do I really want if? Do I really want to add more figures to my collection/ home? I smiled and decided not to feed into the hype. I thanked my coworker for being so gracious and saving me one but it wasn’t something that I wanted to add.
A different coworker over heard that I wasn’t very excited about the brand new items. He began to question if he actually needed it. I laughed and realized how people feed off of others excitement for new things. Whether it be a new phone or a plastic toy, sometimes we rely on others excitement to get excited.
My journey so far hasn’t been long but I’ve already learned some new lessons in life.
Thanks for reading friends!
Road Blocks stop me from where I am going. Frustrated feelings rush through my head, Why now? I have places to go and people to see. I should of arrived 10 minutes ago. Everyone is waiting for me.
All these thoughts float in my head. If only I left earlier.If only of got ready quicker. If only I picked out my outfit the night before. If Only!
If only. What a strange phrase. If only is a road block. A road block for what I truly want to do. Over coming if only is a tiring task. It makes me realize that I make excuses. Excuses are another road block. The I’m not good enough.” or “I don’t have enough time.” excuses stop me from pursuing things I only dream of doing.
Sometimes road blocks are ways to save you from danger. Other times they are just living in your head. Don’t let unwanted guests live where they are not welcomed. They block you from your true calling.
I have a stuff problem.
There I said it. I have stuff problem. If you have read my previous posts, I’ve been focusing on spring cleaning and getting rid of clutter.
I started re-reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. I purchased the book a year and a half ago, read it and thought it was the biggest waste of money. At that time I thought I didn’t have a stuff problem. When I started feeling cramped, I would cull items from my life, donate them and go on my merry way.
I’m looking at the book in a different light now. Realizing that I honestly do have too much stuff. I have toys and collectibles that haven’t seen the light of day in months because I really don’t have a place to display them. My book case is over flowing with crap that I don’t look at anymore. I’m not as bad as an episode of hoarders but I do have clutter.
I mentioned to my boyfriend yesterday about starting this journey. He chuckled and said “Okay, That will last five minutes.” And he is absolutely correct! I have a hard time committing to decluttering because I love holding on to things. I carry so many memories with objects. After my mother passed away, I was able to get rid of all of her clothes and shoes but mementos we a lot harder to part with.
With this journey that I am facing, I am learning that the memories of my mother and family are held inside me, not held in an object. Spending time outside and with people are much more valuable than objects. I know the road I am setting foot on is going to be long and hard. I know in the end though, I will be happier and less stressed. The decluttering journey has just begun. Won’t you join me?
Just wanted to update on what I have been doing. So like I said in one of my previous post, I have been selling tons of items on ebay. I have been pretty successful at it too. This is an attempt to declutter my apartment and my life. I have gathered an array of items from clothes to cute little knick knacks. I also have bought things in the past thinking “Oh YEAH I can totally sell that for more!” only to forget that I owned it. Anyway, that is ancient history. Here are my best practices for selling on Ebay.
- Take great photos of your items.
This is probably one of the most important things to do. The customers online have no way of knowing how the item actually looks like in person. All they get is pictures. So it is super important you take clean and clear pictures of your items. You don’t want clutter in the background of your pictures. It will confuse people on what is actually for sale. I made myself a Shadow box out of a cardboard box and some white poster board. The lamp I am using is just a simple desk lamp I purchased at Target.
2. Describe your item and have fun with it.
This is another important thing to do. Kinda goes hand in hand with number 1 but still vital. Describing your item to the best of your ability will provide the customer with accurate infomation about the item they are currently purchasing. It will lead to better sales and returning customers because they trust you as the seller. I also like to spruce mine up a bit with some fun things like “Great for any new collector” Be creative but not childish.
3. Be timely with sending things out!
So the customer has purchased the item, paid and now its your job to send out the item. This can be a hassle. Especially for me since I am sending 5-10 different things at different times. (Sorry post office!) As the seller you are given 1-3 days to ship out the item. The sooner the better. No one like waiting around for their cool new toy. Another tip: Make sure to add tracking number! This will let the customer check out when it will show up.
Well that is all I have for now. If you have any other questions or want a link to my ebay site leave a comment below. Once again thanks for reading!